Lies

“A little lie is like a little pregnancy: it doesn’t take long before everyone knows.” CS Lewis

As a little girl, I used to come up with the most extravagant lies. But if someone lied to me I was infuriated! How hypocritical of me.  (laughing)

We do funny things in life. I guess the old adage “don’t point your finger at me because when you do there are three pointing back at you” is true sometimes. Uh, most of the time.

As an adult, I detest the very thing I was so good at as a child. Honesty is so important to me now. I would rather someone hurt me with the truth than try to protect me with a lie.

“Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.” Proverbs 12:19

 

 

Christmas Gifts

It must be hard for people to “read” my face to know whether I like a gift that has been given to me. I’ve never been one to overly gush over gifts. Most times I find it uncomfortable to receive a gift. But I sure like giving them!

This year I received quite a few very thoughtful gifts, ie, the giver actually gave some thought to what they were giving  me instead of just buying what was on sale some place.

One of these types of gifts that my husband and I received this year came from his mother. It came in an envelope in the mail with no note. The only reason we knew it was from her was because she always asks us if we have been to a concert in Minnesota.

With all the house “stuff” that we’ve been having to do, we just haven’t had time to head over to Minnesota for an evening of relaxation yet.

But look at this!

Minnesota Concert Packet

This packet includes a voucher for 2 concerts, a voucher for 2 beverages and a parking ticket along with a calendar that shows when all the concerts are. And we get to choose the one we go to! It is one of the most absolute complete gifts I have ever seen! Everything is included.

I’m hoping to use these around our anniversary in March sometime.

There were many other gifts I received that rise to the level of thoughtful gifts. My husband and I are blessed to have both family and friends who continue to lavish their love on us.

 

Welcome to Our World

I’ve performed the song “Welcome to Our World” for a few Christmases at a church while living in Seattle.

The soft melody and the meaningful words have always touched my heart. “Tears are falling, hearts are breaking” — a true reflection of what is going on in this world.

I hope you enjoy listening to the song (click below to see the video).

Welcome To Our World

Merry Christmas!

Hospice

She’s 81 years and 5 months old. Her dementia is getting worse. She’s starting to fall out of bed and can’t remember things from one moment to the next.

So far, my friend remembers me when I talk to her on the phone. My next visit to her will be in late January/early February as she lives in Seattle.

This week I received a call from Hospice wanting my permission to evaluate her as her doctor believes that if she continues in a downward spiral she will not live more than 6 months. I gave them my permission.

This friend has given me power of attorney for financial and medical decisions in her life. For over 12 years our family has helped her. She’s not a rich woman — at least not materialistically although she would always show her thankfulness in handmade quilts, embroidered pillowcases and lots of hugs.

She has placed total trust in us. That’s a lot of responsibility and one I don’t take lightly.

A friend once told me “I can count my real friends on one hand.” Real friends are truly hard to come by. I just hope that I can live up to the trust that she has given me. I don’t want to make any wrong decisions for her. She deserves, when it’s time, to die with dignity.

The aging process is not easy … I sure hope someone is around to take care of me.

 

 

Fate

“What can you ever really know of other people’s souls? In the whole of creation only one soul’s fate is placed in your hands.” CS Lewis

It’s true, isn’t it? We only know our own soul and sometimes not even that. In certain situations our inhibitions may come down, our sensibility is lost, our decisions lack good judgment and we wonder, “Why did I do that?”

Only me. I can only answer for me. That is enough responsibility for a life time.

 

(Image courtesy of Microsoft Images)

 

Harry and David

I enjoy Christmas. And sometimes it brings nice unexpected surprises in the mail.

Today we received a box from Harry and David Gifts. The gifts inside the large box come in pretty individual boxes with a pretty red bow holding them together.

My sister and I were once talking about how we like to give things to people that we like to get back in return. Harry and David’s is one of those types of gifts.

Harry and David

Notice the blemish on one of the pears? I hadn’t noticed it until I sent an email to the friend who sent me the package with the picture above. She pointed it out right away. When I took the rest of the pears out they too were blemished.

Blemished pears

I hadn’t planned on telling my friend about it because I didn’t want her to stress but what she told me is true “Anything from Harry & David should be perfect—that’s why they can command top dollar.”

So, we’ll see what Harry and David has to say.

Update: Harry and David is sending out some more pears. How quickly they responded. Hope the pears look better than the first batch.

Well Tanks

When we were looking to purchase a house a few months ago, a friend of us warned us not to buy a house that was over 15 years old. His logic was “things start going wrong right about that time.”

We haven’t had too many problems with our 1993-built house.

But, one day we started hearing clicking noises throughout the house. It sounded like our water pump was trying to pump water so we would walk through the house listening for where there might be a water leak. Nothing was found.

Shortly thereafter, we noticed that some of our faucets were doing what I call quick-steps. The water would flow at one rate then give a little extra push of extra water. We always had water but it seemed to come with a unique flow pattern in some areas of the house (mainly the showers).

Compounding the problem, our Brita filter didn’t seem to be working as efficiently as it should have. I’d have to replace the filter once every 6-8 weeks instead of the “usual” 3 months that’s recommended.

After having a well tank specialist diagnose our problem (the tank is broken) we went ahead and had the well tank replaced with the same kind — a Challenger — which holds 62 gallons of water. There are different types of well tanks. Ours has a rubber piece inside that is called a bladder. This round piece separates the water from the air at the top of the tank.

When the water is turned on, the air compresses down on the rubber and the water is pushed out to flow to the hot water tank, the sediment filter and the water softener.

This requires (for me) quite a bit of thought.

The main problem was that the bladder in the well tank was broken and can’t be replaced. Too bad. I think they should make a well tank that has a removable top so that the rubber bladder can be replaced instead of having to replace the whole tank. But — that thought is from a novice thinker — me.

The specialist was quite efficient. He brought his own hose and drained most of the water out of the well tank — all except 15 gallons that wouldn’t come out. The water that flowed out was black. Yuck!

Because of this problem, the rest of the house has been impacted. It’s possible that our ice dispenser may be plugged because of it. We now have the task of cleaning out the filter in the basement that flows to the refrigerator. We’ll see if that solves the problem.

There is quite a bit of learning when you buy a house with a septic and a well as opposed to buying a house that has city utilities.

 

 

Minnesota Winter

So far, we have had 4 inches of snow for the year. It’s all melted away now. If the temperatures weren’t in the low 30’s I would think it was still October. The “brown-ness” in the neighborhood fools me when I look out the window. Brown leaves, brown trees, brown deer, brown turkeys — brown and beige.

Turkey hidden in brown trees
Brown Squirrel hidden in brown trees

Last year, everything was a blanket of snow so everything was white.

I’m not complaining. I know that soon enough the snow will come. For now, I don’t mind being able to drive without ice under the tires.

A recent news report showed a picture of a tilted ice house on the lake. Must be a newbie who attempted this as any seasoned Minnesotan knows it is far too early for ice fishing as the lakes are not frozen yet. Hey — I guess I’m not a newbie anymore because even I know that!

The sun is back. Every time the temperature goes over 25 I think “it’s warm outside.” The sunshine makes all the difference.

 

Frangoes

During the Christmas season, I like to indulge in a chocolate called a Frango. They can be bought at Macy’s Department Store.

The chocolate comes in different flavors but I always get the mint.

This year is the first time I have seen them so small. Normally they are the size of two put together.

They are absolutely delicious!

[amazon_link id=”B001JG6REC” target=”_blank” container=”” container_class=”” ]Frango Mint Chocolate Trio - 1 Lb.[/amazon_link]

 

 

 

Labor of Love

The day my youngest son was born is very memorable.

I was at the police station as a detective took my statement about what happened when I accidentally backed into a “No Parking” sign while trying to get to the appointment I had with my obstetrician earlier that month.

After knocking down half the sign, I decided that my Volvo station wagon didn’t fit in that parking spot so I quickly found another figuring I would take care of the problem later. I hate being late for appointments.

Immediately after I got home I called the City of Seattle and explained the situation to the gentleman. I offered to pay for the sign. He told me “Don’t worry about it Ma’am.” I felt happy that I didn’t need to pay for my negligence. Taking down his name and phone number I thanked him profusely.

Unfortunately, someone else had called the police and reported the accident. So, on September 24th, I sat at a desk while a detective interviewed me. I gave him the city employees name and phone number (the one who told me it would be “no problem).” With my belly sticking out I pled my case but I was still given a ticket and told that there would be a court date because I was appealing it.

My labor contractions started soon after I started answering the questions posed by the detective. Finally I felt I couldn’t hide my discomfort. Looking calmly at the detective I said “Officer, I am starting to have contractions, is it possible we finish this another time?”

With a surprised look on his face, the detective hurriedly said “Yes, of course, do you need me to take you to the hospital? Should I call an ambulance or someone else to pick you up?”

“No,” I told him. “I am going to pick my husband up as his work site is not very far from here.”

I exited the building and drove to my husband’s place of employment. From the lobby, I called him and told him that “it’s time.” He came down immediately and rushed me to the hospital.

During the Christmas season, people (including me) re-read the Biblical story of Mary and the birth of Jesus. I’m amazed when it tells of how she rode on a donkey while 9 months pregnant and then gave birth to Jesus in a dirty stable.

My experience on the final day of my pregnancy pales in comparison to Mary’s.

Volvo or donkey?
Hospital or ???
Doctor or midwife?
No showers

Once at the hospital the usual tests were given and my husband and I were told to go for a walk as my cervix was not fully dilated. Once, twice, thrice around the hospital we walked. Each time I told my husband “it’s time” he patiently told me that we could walk around “one more time.”

When we finally went back inside to the hospital room, they gave me another physical test but the baby was still not ready to come out. This time they asked me to take a shower and have the warm water hit my back which is where I was having the most pain.

Hmmm … I wonder if Mary had been told about breathing correctly while in labor?

When I finally got back to the bed, the pain in my back was intense. My husband kept rubbing my back but it was not helping. Finally I told the nurse “I want a shot!” What I really meant was that I wanted an epidural to numb the pain.

The doctor came in and gave me the bad news: “I’m sorry, it’s too late.” Too late?!!! What was she talking about? I didn’t realize there was such a thing as too late. “I’m really sorry,” she told me “but you are too far along and it would pose a danger to the baby.”

I was sorry too. I heard a woman in the next room who was ready to give birth yelling and she seemed to have all the attention. Me? I was trying not to embarrass myself. But if I had to let it all out to get some attention then that’s what I was going to do. I yelled and the nurse came. She checked me again. I told her I felt I was ready.

And this time I was.

Thinking about Mary again I’m sure she didn’t have the option of an epidural like I did. And let’s not sanitize the stable either because If she yelled, every animal around would have heard her screams but no nurse or doctor would have come running. I can’t imagine how uncomfortable it would have been to be in labor sitting on hay.

All the niceties for me — no niceties for the King of the Universe. We’re not told of any complaints from Mary or Joseph.

The video below helps me visualize the “walk” that Joseph and Mary took while on their way to Bethlehem. To read the story of the birth of Jesus, click here.

Labor of Love